“It’s probably not just by chance that I’m alone. It would be very hard for a man to live with me, unless he’s terribly strong. And if he’s stronger than I, I’m the one who can’t live with him. … I’m neither smart nor stupid, but I don’t think I’m a run-of-the-mill person. I’ve been in business without being a businesswoman, I’ve loved without being a woman made only for love. The two men I’ve loved, I think, will remember me, on earth or in heaven, because men always remember a woman who caused them concern and uneasiness. I’ve done my best, in regard to people and to life, without precepts, but with a taste for justice.”

― Coco Chanel

I am that girl for sure, but like the quote, many girls and women find themselves as damsels in distress. The quote portrays attitude, rebellion, and personality. It also portrays our view of life seen by our own lenses. And to be hones,t to be a woman is kind of complicated. We are very complex individuals for sure.

Many women nowadays learned the best way to survive in a man’s world is to cultivate yourself with high heels, a strong personality, and a full luggage of attitude. A couple of days back when I scrolled down my Linkedin profile, I came across a quote from Angelina Jolie and I want to mention it in here; as it sounds pretty awesome. “There is no greater pillar of stability than a strong, free, educated woman and there is no more inspiring role model than a man who respects and cherishes women and champion their leadership.” How beautiful is that? I could easily describe the lean in phenomena, the equality gender, and much more; but I don’t want to advocate the feminism status quo, but would rather focus on my post.

This post is dedicated to all the girls and women who need the courage to change themselves. Once in my life I was there too. And I am not talking on just a personal level, but also on a professional level. I was stuck in a root and the only thing I’ve saw at that time was a dead end.

I am that girl who stands out of a crowd and I do what I want. With me I bring individual choices, attitude, respect, confidence, and knowledge.

What defines me?

People who know me think that I am fueled by coffee and ambition. Being a woman requires multitasking, self control, confidence, and self respect. Being a professional woman requires skills and knowledge. It requires to be tough, to be able to wear the pants with dignity. To forget that high heels, beauty, family, children, and many other things are your collaterals; to think that every single moment matters that you are there and are able to tell the world that you count and you know what are you doing.

I am that girl veiled in a woman’s overall. I still eat the damn chocolate after 10 pm. I dance, I sing, I make silly jokes, and I act crazy most of the time. I drive with my window down, I talk to the strangers, I engage in conversation with the elderly, I help children at the bus stop, I smile at everyone. I try new things as change is good for me. I laugh every chance I get; as life is short. I watch more movies than my grown up daughters. I sleep more than I should. I work hard and play hard. In another way, I live my life to the fullest. I am not complete, but I seize the moments. I am that girl who brings confidence with her; who made you think twice that anything is worth trying. I advise you to accept changes. Break any chain that locked you up. Free yourself from fear and lack of confidence. Learn to stand up on your own feet. Learn that anything that powers you has its own weaknesses.

I am that girl who tells you that anything you fear is teaching you courage to overcome your fear. Anything you can’t control teaches you to let you go. Embrace change. Grow from within. Being a girl and ultimately a woman is the most beautiful thing. Learn to break the barriers and be yourself.

As for me, I am a woman with the attitude, a woman who knows what she wants- and oh boys, watch the level crossing as I am just passing by…

As for the ones who think that I am overly confident, I confess that I still have my moments…But who cares anymore? Tomorrow is another day.